Tuesday, May 20, 2008
...a good cry...
Don't get me wrong, I'm an "emotional" person. If you know me, you know this is true. You know I get excited, angry, sad, upset, etc. But for some reason, my ability to cry is limited to a few times a year, seriously, I'm not making this up. I do tend to choke up at certain times, like when the bride comes down the aisle, you know, basically I experience the emotion you would if you were going to cry...except without tears, at best, I may well up, but even that's doubtful.
I don't cry at movies, books, and only sometimes at funerals. I'm stone cold and hard hearted, I know.
No, I'm more of an angry crier, a phone crier, an alone crier. Usually it builds up, after several stressful or upsetting events pile up and my threshold just breaks, out of nowhere, boom! Sometimes its a dumb thing that can finally bring it on and everyone is confused about why I am crying, self included. There are 2 things that can usually be related to any time I cry: one, usually I'm on the phone, two, if there is anything wrong with my car and I get stressed having to get it fixed, call the insurance, etc, there's sure to be tears!
Well, tonight, the threshold broke! The last 2 days have been crazy, stressful, eventful, chaotic, and I've just wanted to run away from responsibility. Then I come home and I'm on the phone with my mom and she lectures me, then my sister and I get in a fight on the phone, then I read something upsetting online, I call a friend of mine to vent, and wouldn't you know...I'm gone, the tears begin to flow. Even after I got off the phone with her, I cried some more, just to get it all out.
To be honest, now that I'm done crying and done feeling so sorry for myself, I feel great. It was nice to get a good cry in.
Funny thing, I could be wrong, but I think this may be the first time I cried this year...seriously, I can't remember crying any time recently in 2008...it's been a while. I guess I was over due. And it's not surprising to me that it all built up right when the stress of VBS is at its height.
Super Duper: don't have to work on Monday, Memorial Day!
Super Pooper: don't have any exciting plans for Memorial Day!
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
...today warrants being documented...
today was...looooooooooooooooooong
today was...frustrating
today was...one of those days that if I were a cryer, I would have cried out of stress and emotional overload
today was...stressful
today was...exhausting
today was...overwhelming
today was...productive
today was...survivable
I've got to get better at coping with the stress. So many decisions to make, fires to put out, people to help, boxes to move. I needed time to get away from the office, and there was just no time to be had.
The problem is, no one to release all this frustration/stress/overload onto. I mean, I call my parents, my dad gives me the "buck up" speech, and my mom lectures me on how to handle it. I know they think I'm being a baby, and overreacting, but it's stressful and exhausting!!! I know, it will all be worth it in the end, and this too shall pass, just press on, the light at the end of the tunnel, persevere, etc, etc, etc...blah blah blah! I just want someone to call or someone waiting for me at home, to listen, give me sympathy, and say, "Man, that really sucks, YOU'RE AMAZING!!!" haha...I know, I'm sounding pretty pathetic right now.
Ok, before you start feeling too sorry for me, and worrying about my mental health, just know that I really am doing better. I know that tomorrow is a new day, and hopefully we'll keep getting stuff done, and it will all be worth it on Feb 3rd when the children & their parents come see the new building and are so excited about their new church!
Ok, I'm done throwing the pity party and venting, just needed to get that off my chest, thanks for listening, as always!
Super Duper: Amy Hatchett is helping me keep my sanity by working with us for the next few weeks to get us through "The Move"
Super Pooper: School starts on Monday
Super Duper Pooper: My family is gathering in Temple on MLK weekend to celebrate my mom's b-day, and I have to miss out b/c work is CRAZINESS right now (as you already know)
Saturday, January 12, 2008
...keeping my head above water...
Super Duper: my mom's helping me decorate my office, hopefully it will all come together!
Super Pooper: the "diet" isn't going soooo well...need to get back on it!
Saturday, November 17, 2007
...the drama that is my family...
Thanksgiving Drama:
My parents left Corpus today and headed to my oldest sister's, Katy, in the Temple area. They will stay til Monday to have lunch with Brady at his school, then they will head to Waco to pick Ashlyn up from school. They were supposed to stay in Waco on Monday night with Kristy, Trent, Ashlyn & Cole. But Ashlyn told my mom she wanted them to spend the night for 2 nights. So my parents changed their plan to stay Monday & Tuesday night, and then head back on Wednesday morning to Temple to help get ready for Thanksgiving day. Well, this upset my oldest sister (whose house we are having Thanksgiving at) because she had wanted my parents to get back on Tuesday to help with some errands, cooking, etc.
Kelly, my sister closest to me in age, was going to go down to Temple on Sunday and stay through Tuesday to hang out with the fam, cook, run errands, help with the kiddos, etc. But she changed her mind because she is trying to get her house ready to sale. So she stayed in Arlington to clean out closets, get new carpet, etc. So we won't see her till Thanksgiving day. Oh, and she's bringing her boyfriend, Brandon, who will join us for his first time for a big Berry family gathering. Oh, and he doesn't know that we have a mandatory Thanksgiving tradition of going around the table and saying what we're thankful for. And now Kelly is also slightly frustrated because Brandon's work schedule just got changed and he has Friday off, which she would like to spend with him since he's in his residency for med school so they don't often both have the same day off, but instead, will be spending with the day with my parents & I because we'll be staying at her house on Friday & Saturday for some good shopping!
I on the other hand am sad because I had hoped to spend time with all the kiddos for several days, but Ashlyn has school til Wednesday, so they won't come to Temple til Wednesday afternoon. But I guess that will have to do.
Birthday Drama:
My niece Ashlyn will turn 6 on Dec 5th, and I will turn 25 on Dec 7th. We had originally thought to have dinner on my birthday to celebrate, and then Ashlyn's party on the 8th. Well, my mom can't make it to Waco in time for dinner on Friday night, so my birthday dinner got switched to Saturday night, which is fine, except for the fact that I have a Christmas party that night that I am going to have to miss :(
My sister, Katy, is upset about the time of Ashlyn's party because she has a dress rehearsal for the kids Christmas program that she is in charge of that Saturday morning, so she and they boys will be late for Ashlyn's surprise party.
My sister, Kelly, is upset because she wanted Ashlyn's party to be the weekend before, which it originally was going to be, but my mom couldn't be there, so Kristy had to switch it to the weekend of the 7th/8th, so now Kelly can't be there.
My mom is upset because Kelly is going on a girls spa retreat with her church, so she will miss the whole birthday weekend. Note the irony, it was my mom's fault that the party got moved to the weekend that Kelly couldn't go, but my mom is still upset with her.
Christmas Drama:
As my family has grown, sisters married, children born, our traditions and routines have had to change. It took Kelly and I a while to get used to Christmas morning without all of us there, but we adjusted, and began creating new traditions. So the new tradition is for my sisters to drive down on Christmas day with their families, and then we have a big Christmas dinner and open presents late in to the night.
Well, Katy mentioned that Brent feels bad about having they boys open presents, and then telling them they have to leave their presents and go to Grams & Gramps'. So Katy told me a few days ago that they may wait and come on the 26th. Well, I did not like this AT ALL!!!
So I mentioned it to my mom, so that she would make sure and convince Katy to make the trip on Christmas day. Well, my mom got REALLY upset. Saying it hurt her feelings, and the least they could do was come down for Christmas night...
We'll see what actually ends up happening...
While things are never simple with my family and we are all heading in 5 different directions all the time, I'm sure the holidays will be fun as usual and we will all be glad just to be together, creating memories.
Super Duper: NO CLASS ON MONDAY!!!
Super Pooper: book review due the Monday after Thanksgiving, and I've only skimmed half the book...
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
...does he have a girlfriend???
these are all the overanalytical questions that I ask myself, making nothing into something and just asking for drama! but hey, it keeps things interesting, adds a little spice to life.
sorry, i'm not really wanting to give any details about the situation, but rather just wanted to throw out my frustration...
things have been good lately. saw "Bourne Ultimatum" last weekend with some friends, the parents cam through town and took me to lunch, my sister, her husband and 2 boys were her Monday night and Tuesday. I'm headed to Dallas this weekend for Jae's weeding, should be fun!!!
that's the basics, oh, in recent news, Lillian and Josh got engaged, and Erin & Jeff got engaged...there's something in the water...I need to get me some of that water!
Super Duper: my volleyball team is in 6th place out of 18 teams!!!
Super Pooper: my office in the new building is kinda small and has a big pole in the middle of the wall with windows, but atleast I have an office and windows, right?
Saturday, July 07, 2007
Maybe this is why Elaine's latest post doesn't have a title, the title box isn't working(so I just made my own title), bummer. anyways, I have this desire to tell you something different than just the latest details of life. I know, life anecdotes are good, and keep you informed, but I feel as though that's all I've posted lately.
waiting and patient
these are often words that I use when people ask me if I have met anyone, or am dating someone "special." Here's the deal, I really think I'm the type of person that would tell you if something like that happened in my life. If you are close enough to me, you'll know, I promise! I won't be able to shut up about it, most likely.
But for now, I do consider myself patient, and definitely waiting. I wouldn't say I'm eager, because I only want the right person at God's right timing, in fact, if He would just clue me in and say, "You will meet your husband in the next 5 years" I really think I would be content with knowing that. It doesn't have to be tomorrow (although if it were, that'd be okay too), but just knowing that it's out there, in my future, that'd be comforting. But I'm not counting on any divine revelation of that manner. I know I must trust in the Lord, and have faith that His timing is perfect. I guess we'll see how patient I am, and at what point I become impatient.
As much as I enjoy weddings, I do hope to get to plan my own some day ...
Super Duper: this may be the best yet Aunt's Weekend
Super Pooper: sometimes busy schedules make it hard to get together with friends
ps - I went to a store the other day and their sale was called a "super duper sale", and you just thought I had made that up!
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
...ode to GG...

Friday, February 09, 2007
...my Valentine's Card is a post-it note...
I wanted to address the issue of Valentine's Day. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me because I'm "alone" on V-day! Seriously, I'm not worried about it. I love Valentine's Day. I love telling people I love them and even just sending an unexpected card to someone I haven't talked to in a while. In fact, I prefer to not have to stress out about what to get a certain guy that you've only been dating for a few weeks or even a few months. I mean let's face it. Guys don't like V-day. They don't really want anything and they don't have a clue about what to get you. It's so much unnecessary pressure.
So please, stop pitying all the single girls out there. We are big girls and can take care of ourselves. Don't worry, I feel plenty loved on V-day, even without a "boyfriend."
Oh and another thing, I HATE it when people refer to Valentine's Day as "Single's Awareness Day" (SAD). There is nothing sad about it, and I'm very aware of my singleness!!!
Super Duper: A great weekend with relaxing and hanging out with friends.
Super Pooper: laundry, laundry, laundry
Friday, February 02, 2007
...when did i become a woman???
I mean, when I was at Baylor I know I wasn't a woman, no one referred to me as a woman. The average female in college (age 18-22) wouldn't be referred to as a woman. So that narrows it down. It must have happened some time in the past 2 years, since I graduated.
But you see, it seems to me that there should be a specific event that deems you a woman. You know, some people may say getting married makes you a woman. But I think of many girls that get married young, and don't necessarily qualify as a "woman." So then does it have to do anything with having sex? You know, how guys say having sex makes them a "man." Well is the same true for girls? If so, then I don't qualify by that standard.
So far there isn't any one event/date/action that makes someone suddenly a woman, as far as I can see. People tell me that it has something to do with the fact that I have a job, salary, stability. That I support myself, have an apartment, make a car payment, etc, these are the types of things that make me a "woman."
Who knows? Is it the stroke of turning 24? Is that a magical age that makes a girl into a woman? I sure didn't feel anything significantly different just by starting my 24th year of life.
All I know is that I'm going on the Women's Ministry Retreat this weekend, and it kind of freaks me out that I qualify as a woman. It's just weird how I subtly moved into this category and still have not clue when or how it happened. And may I add that if I could keep it from happening, I just might. Just like their isn't anything that makes me a woman, so far I haven't found any benefits to being one either. Let me know if there is some benefit that I'm missing out on!
Super Duper: Having Friday off!!!
Super Pooper: lots of cleaning to do at my apt!
Monday, January 22, 2007
...i'm trying to post more often...
I walk into a room where we are about to have a meeting only to find that the lights won't turn on. There are several (3 or 4) ppl right behind me. I tell them that the lights won't turn on and that we should use a different room. The head Administrative minister a the church (my boss' boss) tells me to just turn on the lights. I look at him and say, "I tried, they won't turn on. Are you doubting my competence to turn on the lights?" Then they all started laughing at me and making fun of me for using the word competence. They start saying, "Did you say, 'doubting my incompetence?' 'We are fully aware of your incompetence' 'You are obviously not competent' etc etc. Seriously this went on for several minutes. I was okay with a few quick stabs, but it went on and on... :( I started feeling really dumb.
So my question to you is, was what I said really that funny? They said that "competence" isn't a word. You can have incompetence, and be competent, but you can't have competence...hmmm.
I looked this up, here's webster's definition of competence: the quality of being competent; adequacy; possession of required skill, knowledge, qualification, or capacity.
So it is a word, ha! I guess I accepted the fact a long time ago that I'm easy to poke fun at!
Super Duper: my sister & bro-in-law get back from Africa tomorrow!!!
Super Pooper: I REALLY wanted to go to hip hop tonight, but neither of my hip hop friends replied to my email, so I didn't go...
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
...exciting news...
but maybe that's a good thing, huh? there's something to be said about being "settled" and not having to adjust or stress or whatever comes along with "exciting news".
No, really, i'm not complaining, I just thought I would vent, since I seemingly am living a rather boring, mundane life. Funny, I didn't realize or think my life was uneventful, until I heard everyone else's news...that'll bring you down! haha, i'm fine, really! Just wanted to throw myself a pitty party!
Super Duper: school doesn't start for 2 more weeks!
Super Pooper: the music minister at our church is leaving :(
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
...what makes a bad day bad?
Super Duper: A super fun wedding this Saturday, and then a Kelly Clarkson concert that night!!!
Super Pooper: things seem to be just status quo
Wednesday, March 15, 2006
...no one asked me if I wanted to grow up...
Okay, maybe that was a little dramatic, but I had to get it out. Lately it seems like it's overwhelming. Right now its just feels like its coming at me from every direction and I can't keep my head above water.
Some people say that the Lord doesn't give us more than we can handle. I strongly disagree with that. I think the Lord gives us more than we can handle on our own, but He NEVER gives us more than we can handle WITH Him. So, may I only rely on Him through the stress and know that He is my Rock.
Super Duper: Going to Temple tomorrow for a few short days with the fam and Brady's b-day party! :)
Super Pooper: Major paper due Monday, not sure when its going to get done.
Sunday, March 12, 2006
...random rant...
Super Duper: NO SCHOOL TOMORROW!!!
Super Pooper: Have to work instead of going to school :(
Thursday, February 16, 2006
...sooooooooooooo sad...
One would think that it would get easier the longer I'm out of college. And maybe it will. But so far it's still hard. This weekend and next will be super hard as I think about my friends performing and me not even getting to watch and cheer them on. I'm not ashamed to admit it, I miss it and wish I were not only getting to see the acts, but that I was in one. So ladies, if anyone who is still in SING reads this, cherish it, enjoy it while it lasts, don't wish it away because of the stress.
Here are a few pics from SING when I was in it...
Okay, I'm gonna stop talking about this, because this is making me sad.
Super Duper: Tomorrow's Friday!
Super Pooper: Haven't done any reading for my classes!!!
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
...boys, who needs 'em?...
Now i'm not saying that I want to go a lifetime without a boy to share Valentine's Day with, but for now, I'm content, and very grateful for friends to share a day of love with.
So here's to my fantabulous friends (image: me raising my bottle of strawberry Crush), whom I love very much, all of you, you know who you are!
Super Duper: I love the Olympics.
Super Pooper: Life.
Sunday, January 15, 2006
...me vs. the boys...
Really, I'm not complaining. I'm rather content and know that the Lord will bring Mr. Right along at the right time, and I must be patient till then. I just wanted to rant, so there you have it, my first rant for 2006.
Super Duper: No school tomorrow, I don't start back till next week.
Super Pooper: My first full work week in 4 weeks.
Wednesday, September 28, 2005
"You look tired"
For example, a little old lady told me that today and I actually haven't felt better. I mean, what excuse would I have for being tired? I've had 5 days off to play with my family. Yes, it was a busy 5 days, but a great break from work and life! But what was it that made her think I looked tired? Do I have bags under my eyes, was I yawning? Seriously, I had a great, very productive day today, a nice lunch with my little old lady friends...life is good, I'M NOT TIRED!!!
The thing is that this isn't the first time that I've heard this since I moved to Houston. I think it's a new thing for me because in college no one really says that to eachother. I mean, we understand that college kids live in a state of tiredness, and we know we don't want to hear it. But people I encounter in the real world love to tell me that I "look tired."
Sometimes I think it's because I'm not wearing eye liner or mascara, or something to make me just look different and so then people assume it means I'm tired...I'M NOT TIRED!!!
What I'm trying to say is, it would be in your best interest not to tell me that I "look tired." I know none of you would ever dare to, but instead, if someone looks tired, go ahead and tell them they look great! Think about it, if they really are tired, then the encouraging words will mean the world to them, if they're fine, then they'll appreciate the compliment!!
Super Duper: Yummy lunch at Goode Co. Seafood (and I didn't have to pay!!!)
Super Pooper: my left eye is hurting from my contacts again and I don't know why